Healthy Relationships

About this Guide

This resource is designed to support practitioners deliver appropriate PSE in conjunction with their learners in light of the Scottish Government PSE Review (2019). You may with to look at the information about cocreation in the activity section, along with the associated benchmarks, to support your learners build on their existing knowledge and understanding of this topic. This suggested Healthy Relationships content will support practitioner work with their learners to develop the curriculum to suit their local context and meet the relevant age and stage of development for children and young people with regard to Relationships, Sexual Health & Parenthood.

Suggested Experiences & Outcomes

Mental & Emotional Wellbeing

HWB 4-02a

I know that we all experience a variety of thoughts and emotions that affect how we feel and behave and I am learning ways of managing them.

HWB 4-03a

I understand that there are people I can talk to and that there are a number of ways in which I can gain access to practical and emotional support to help me and others in a range of circumstances.

HWB 4-04a

I understand that my feelings and reactions can change depending upon what is happening within and around me. This helps me to understand my own behaviour and the way others behave.

HWB 4-05a

I know that friendship, caring, sharing, fairness, equality and love are important in building positive relationships. As I develop and value relationships, I care and show respect for myself and others.

HWB 4-07a

I am learning skills and strategies which will support me in challenging times, particularly in relation to change and loss.

HWB 4-08a

I understand that people can feel alone and can be misunderstood and left out by others. I am learning how to give appropriate support.

Social Wellbeing

HWB 4-10a

I recognise that each individual has a unique blend of abilities and needs. I contribute to making my school community one which values individuals equally and is a welcoming place for all.

Physical Wellbeing

HWB 4-15a

I am developing my understanding of the human body and can use this knowledge to maintain and improve my wellbeing and health.

HWB 4-16a

I am learning to assess and manage risk, to protect myself and others, and to reduce the potential for harm when possible.

HWB 4-17a

I know and can demonstrate how to keep myself and others safe and how to respond in a range of emergency situations.

Relationships, Sexual Health & Parenthood

HWB 4-44a

I understand the importance of being cared for and caring for others in relationships, and can explain why.

HWB 4-44b

I understand and can demonstrate the qualities and skills required to sustain different types of relationships.

HWB 4-44c

I understand and can explain the importance of, and need for, commitment, trust and respect in loving and sexual relationships. I understand the different contexts of such relationships including marriage.

HWB 4-45a

I recognise that power can exist within relationships and can be used positively as well as negatively.

HWB 4-45b

I am aware of the need to respect personal space and boundaries and can recognise and respond appropriately to verbal and non-verbal communication.

HWB 4-46a

I reflect on how my attitudes, beliefs, values and morality can influence my decisions about friendships, relationships and sexual behaviour.

HWB 4-46b

I know that popular culture, the media and peer pressure can influence how I feel about myself and the impact this may have on my actions.

HWB 4-46c

I am developing skills for making decisions about my relationships and sexual behaviour. I am able to apply these to situations that may be challenging or difficult.

HWB 4-47a

I understand my own body’s uniqueness, my developing sexuality, and that of others.

HWB 4-48a

I know how to access services, information and support if my sexual health and wellbeing is at risk. I am aware of my rights in relation to sexual health including my right to confidentiality, and my responsibilities, including those under the law.

HWB 4-49a

I know how to manage situations concerning my sexual health and wellbeing and am learning to understand what is appropriate sexual behaviour.

HWB 4-49b

I know where to get support and help with situations involving abuse and I understand that there are laws which protect me from different kinds of abuse.

HWB 4-51a

I can explain the importance and the enduring and complex responsibility of being a parent/carer, and the impact on life choices and options.

Associated Benchmarks

  • Justifies why commitment, trust and respect are central to being cared for and caring for others.
  • Explains the importance of shared values and goals in sustaining a loving and sexual relationships, for example, mutual respect, agreement on sex.
  • Distinguishes between a balance of power and abuse of power in relationships, for example, respect, trust, coercion, consent.
  • Understands and respects diversity in sexuality, for example, sexual orientation and gender identity.
  • Explains how positive and negative body image can affect health, self-worth and behaviour, for example, self-reliance, beauty industry expectations, body building.
  • Evaluates how the media, including social media and pornography impact on physical and mental health
  • Demonstrates the skills needed to manage challenging situations within relationships, including sexual relationships, for example, compromise, empathy, decisiveness.
  • Understands the rights and responsibilities required for safe and enjoyable sex.
  • Explains how to access both local and national information, guidance and help.
  • Demonstrates an understanding of support available and current legislation related to a range of types of abuse, for example, female genital mutilation, domestic abuse, grooming, child sexual exploitation.
  • Explains how to access support for parents and carers.

Suggested Learning Intentions

  • to learn what makes healthy relationships
  • to develop understanding of factors that impact healthy relationships
  • to investigate what a healthy relationship means to me

Suggested Success Criteria (I Can…)

  • explain what is meant by a healthy relationship
  • discuss how different factors can impact on the health of relationships
  • identify situations/factors that can affect the health of relationships

Suggested Learning Experiences

These suggested activities/tasks are for group work within a classroom and target holistic/generic/universal needs of learners. You should select activities/tasks that are most relevant to the needs of your learners and school community. Please use your professional judgement as to how best to deliver these types of activities/tasks sensitively/appropriately with your learners and which other staff may also be able to provide support/differentiation to meet their needs.

What do we know?

Review what pupils already know about relationships (relationships, respect, consent etc.) Discuss what makes a healthy relationship – how do you know? Where do views/attitudes/influences come from? What are the different types of relationships?

What do we need to know?

You may wish to use the National RSHP resource tasks and activities to support your learners discuss different types of relationships such as Romantic & Loving relationships, aspects of Living together, How to make a relationship work, Qualities of a partner, Would having a baby change my life, Connecting and nurturing your child, the Baby box. What if things change and relationships become unhealthy? What does Partner control and coercion mean? What is Grooming and Child Sexual Exploitation? [You may wish to use some NHS Library Resources and External Links to further explore this topic with learners.]

What’s happening here/locally? What could we do next?

What local issues do we have relating to healthy relationships? What can we do/what support agencies/networks are there? Does your school participate in Mentors in Violence Prevention?